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Wednesday, May 23, 2012 Posted by Marcel Sanchez | 0 comments

When You Choose to Leave You Choose to Cleave


Ephesians 5:22-33, ESV

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Marriage takes work.  It is not for the weak nor is it for the faint of heart.  There has to be mutual submission within your relationship to make your marriage function smoothly.  Husbands have to lead their homes by example.  We can't demand one thing and do another.  We have to model love, forgiveness, and great care for our wives in every area of our relationship.  The more we love our wives the more we sacrifice for their personal benefit.  A mark of maturity is when we consider the needs of our spouse ahead of our own needs and make sure their needs are met first.  We are to strive to present our wives holy and without blemish before the Lord.  This won't happen automatically.  We have to be proactive and take the initiative to love and serve our wives to help them continue growing into the person God designed them to be. 

This great love and service towards our spouse is exactly what God expects from us as His sons.  When Jesus came His ministry was marked by love and service to his disciples and also to those whom He met during His travels.  He healed, taught, fed, encouraged, trained, and even rebuked others when necessary as a visible expression of God's great love toward mankind.  No one will argue whether or not Jesus loved people.  It was obvious by everything that He said and did.  He made significant personal investments into the lives of His disciples and modeled for them what being a disciple of Jesus Christ was all about. 

To fully cling to our wives we must completely leave our father and our mother.  No, we're not talking about abandoning our parents or rejecting all of their advice.  That would be foolish.  We're not talking about ignoring them or turning our backs on them either.  We are talking about starting new traditions as you embrace your spouse and begin working through life on your own.  Taking personal responsibility for your marriage and depending on God to provide for your needs is part of what we are talking about here.  

You have to become one with your spouse spiritually, physically and emotionally.  You can't do that when living with mom and dad.  You have to find your own place and grow as a couple without depending on your parents.  Only then can you really begin to cleave to your spouse.  If you don't leave and cleave, the tension will build within your relationship and ultimately tear your relationship apart.  To cling well you have to leave well.  When you choose to leave your family you choose to cleave to your spouse.

This and other topics are regularly discussed at our marriage seminars and conferences.  You will always build your marriage when you and your spouse take the initiative to invest in your relationship.  This last weekend was our first Matrimonio Por Diseño Seminar in Nicaragua.  We partnered with Iglesia Encuentro con Cristo to make this event a success.  The team at Iglesia Encuentro con Cristo love the people of Nicaragua.  They wanted to do something different to strengthen marriages and build families within their community. 

We are already looking ahead on the calendar to see how we can return for our next marriage seminar and reach out to an even broader audience.  Thank you Andy, Diane, Mercedes and Dr. William for your heart of service and dedication to serving the people of Managua, Nicaragua. 

It was an honor to serve you and your ministry.

Marcel Sanchez, Founder
Marriage Catalyst
Matrimonio Por Diseño